I have always said a homeschooling mom’s biggest challenge is wearing the hats of both mom and teacher.
In those not so shining moments of homeschooling, I find myself saying things like, “There’s no way you’d pull this in a real class!”
“Do you think you could complain about your work like this if you were at school?”
“Would you talk to your teacher with that kind of tone? I certainly hope not!”
Can you relate?
I get frustrated when I don’t feel like the boys give me the same respect they’d give a teacher in a classic school setting, and I’ll admit, I take it personal.
But, I realized how very selfish it is to feel this way.
I realized this week that my children also have the difficult challenge of wearing two hats.
They must be the child and the student.
They don’t always get to enjoy me as just their mom. Many of those mommy moments are easily overshadowed by the responsibility I have to educate them.
They switch hats right along with me.
I often get aggravated they don’t treat me like their teacher, but I have to ask myself…do I treat them like my students?
The honest answer is no.
I began to think about the double standard I’ve placed upon them and I had a homeschooling “aha” moment.
If I had a classroom, I’d be passing out goodies left and right. My students would have the privilege of earning rewards for a job well done. Notes would go home to mom and dad letting them know what a great day their child had.
Not a holiday would be missed without our classroom decorated to the 9’s and each day would be an adventure!
But here, sometimes it feels like we just get our work done.
I often forget to encourage them.
Lately, I forget to have fun!
What if I began to look at my role as a homeschooling mom differently? What if I pretend for just one week that these children here at the dining room table aren’t mine.
How would I treat them differently if they were my students?
Let’s be honest. I would have easily been fired from my teaching job by now if I yelled at my class as much as a I yell as my kids.
How can I change the way our “classroom” runs to foster a new love of learning?
How can I mold and shape a student’s spirit in each of my children?
My boys are both bright, amazing young men. Am I telling them that enough?
How am I showing them to be the students I am asking them to be?
It’s easier said than done, this switching of hats, but it’s up to me to set the example.
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
If you’re looking for a way to praise your child today, check out this adorable Valentine from Mary of Homegrown Learners. Her gummy worms sort of inspired this post.
Want more inspiration for encouraging your children?
Read my post, 100 Things Your Kids Need to Hear!
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