When your children act like brats it’s usually a good time to take a deep breathe and look in the mirror.
It sucks to admit that we’re the root of the problem. At the bottom of our child’s poor attitude is a parent with a poor attitude. Go figure.
Lately, I’m noticing the kids being snippy with each other, having little patience with others, and just generally being negative.
The grim reality is that this is exactly how I’ve been behaving.
Our children are just innocent bystanders in our parenting journey. Poor kids.
They’re left with us. They don’t get to pick the best mom and dad out there, they just get what they get. They are the product of us, the environment we provide, and the values we give them.
Our actions speak for us and that’s what our kids are really listening to. They watch us. Even when they’re older and seem to be paying little attention to us at all, they’re watching.
By the time they’ve reached the teen years, they’ve seen our flaws. Older children want to see their parents “walk the walk”. They watch even closer.
I’m not sure if there’s a more sobering moment in this parenting journey than that moment when you realize the behaviors you dislike most in your children are behaviors they learned from you.
I despise whining. It cuts right to the core of me. Yet I catch myself whining all the time.
Oh boy, this one gets me. Yet, I complain.
There’s nothing more frustrating. Yet, I have to have the last word.
It’s not really fair to my kids they are left with me as a mother. I’m an imperfect parent struggling to make the right move on most days.
If we want things to be different we have to be willing to change.
I think it takes a change of heart and a shift in our focus.
How would our parenting change if we stopped pointing the finger at our kids and started looking in the mirror at ourselves?
Do you struggle to “walk the walk” in parenting?