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I’ve been thinking that I really need to make an effort in the date night category. I decided that if we were going to go out to eat it wasn’t going to be because hubs went behind my back and surprised me with some romantic evening I knew nothing about. Yeah, right.
His excitement is enough to make me fall in love all over again.
I told the kids they would be going to their aunt’s to play.
Oldest: Does she have wi-fi?
Youngest: How long will you be gone? {insert crying}
Oh, C’mon kid. Mommy needs a break.
So, I did all of that. Arranged the date, arranged the sitter, showered, and even shaved my legs!
I got cute in jeans and a nice top. Add heels. Ok. This is good.
Dropped the kids off, came back home, and made sure hubs could shower, have a beer, and relax a little before we went to dinner.
Hubs: Where do you want eat? (yawn)
Me: I don’t know? Wherever.
Hubs: Well, you tell me.
Me: Honey, really. You pick.
Oh, man. He’s really sweeping me off my feet.
And dinner was nice. The food was great. We enjoyed getting out, but have you ever gone through the trouble to set up date night, and then it’s sort of a dud of an evening? Nothing bad happened. We had a nice time. But, no sex fireworks. Ya know?
I think my expectations were so high, I was destined to be disappointed.
Sigh….
We’re an old married couple.
The moral of this story?
We need to go on dates more often!
How do you make time for your marriage?
*I wrote this last year (before I found a new home on WordPress). I am happy to report that we’ve come a little farther in the date night department. In fact, this weekend we’ll be eating somewhere in public, sans children. 
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At least you made the effort to go on a date. I still need to get around to that with Hubby. Jellybean has turned into clingy boy though so its hard!
Oh, I HATE it when this happens to me, but it so frequently does. I also hate when we decide on a date night together, but when we finally leave the house we have no plans or ideas of where to go. If I'm going to put in the work and fork over the cash, I want the night to be awesome, not average.
This sounds like every date my husband and I had when the kids were younger. Within an hour he would be mentioning how we weren't doing anything differently than when we had the kids, and we would wind up at home watching TV.
For some reason we are enjoying our dates much more now that the girls are old enough that we both need some time away from the attitudes. This pre-teen thing definitely requires date nights!
I hope your next one is better.
We have date night once a month. We plan it ahead of time so we really get to look forward to it.
I'm sorry your date night wasn't as exciting as you thought it would be. I hate when expectations are really high and then things don't go as you wanted. But at least you got to have a date night! That is a definite plus!
I haven't had a date night in months with my husband, let alone a quiet dinner at home without kids interrupting. I resolved that even without date night, I need to reconnect with my husband and our marriage. I don't know if you read The Literal Mom, but she had a guest poster yesterday that wrote a great article about marriage. You might like it, it might just turn around your next date night.
http://www.literalmom.com/literal-mom/2012/01/expert-advice-on-long-term-marital-bliss.html
Let me know!
Yep, you need more dates! ALthough when you don't have that many you'd think he'd be more excited! But men are weird, so who knows.
My love and I have decided that we will have date night at least once a month…we decided this last month after a date night. It's Jan 31st and we haven't had a date this month. LOL
We've had dates like this. Where we barely even talk b/c we're so tired. But, just being able to enjoy the quiet together and eat w/o interruption is still pretty awesome.
–When we go on a date, we usually talk about the kids…which sort of defeats the whole idea of a date!!!
Ya know?
xx Good Post!
I know hat you mean. We've had a couple of those before. Or even worse, we end up getting into a disagreement. And then it's like the worst night EVER because I'm all broody and annoyed and he's all silent and um, silent. It's only happened like that once but man did I wish I'd stayed home!
haha, we've only been married since July and I feel like an old married couple at times. Keep up the work with date nights, they are awesome!
How about next time, keep it simple … drop the kids, pick up food, light some candles at home and just relax xxx
But hey, you made an effort, a BIG A for you
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OH my gosh, this is hilarious. So glad I found you!!! Thank you for stopping by my blog earlier. You are such an encouragement to me:)
Adrianne, you are hilarious. We had a date night one month ago because it was hubby's birthday. Trying to make it more consistent.
Funny! We are also trying to go on more date nights, and I'm trying to put effort into them. Effort = getting dressed up and some make-up!
We try not to chat about the girls, but we do.
The no "fireworks" happens to us all the time on date night. I think we get ourselves too worked up and then we just aren't feelin' it. The date nights where we have enough time to have dinner and a movie are enough to relax the both of us and let things fall into place.
Btw, I giggled at everyone of your "thoughts" in between the story of events. Too funny!
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We have not done a date night in a very long time. At this rate I’m thinking we will get to do one approximately the time my daughter becomes old enough to babysit herself for an evening (only a few years away) (depressing idea of waiting years aside….my daughter is almost old enough to babysit! How did that happen?)
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Haha! I hear ya. My oldest is 14, and we’re just getting to the point where we’re enjoying having big kids. no babysitting going on here yet. But, it’s coming soon. I babysat three kids (including a newborn) when I was only 11! That’s crazy talk.
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I love the idea of recycling posts and can’t wait to link up. Date nights here are the very same way. They are rare. Usually our date is a weekly trip to Target.
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We’re better at than we used to be. We average about once a month, and that’s good for us. Target? My husband would rather die. Alone.
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Go on another date soon and I’m sure y’all will be more at ease and there won’t be so much expectation this time. We should all give these hubsters more attention all the time and it won’t feel so strange on date night, probably.
Blessings to ya for trying…you are on the right track,
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WE’re way better than we used to be! This Saturday is date night! Yippee!
We had to cancel a date night this past week because of a sick sitter. After weeping in the car when I got the text (no lie), I rallied and created a fun meal from the grocery store’s specialty areas. It ended up being quite nice. But there really is nothing like dinner out. Especially for a crazy foodie like me.
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Oh no! That stinks. But kudos to you for turning it all around. I probably would have ruined the whole night feeling sorry for myself.
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AH yes!!! The expectations are overwhelming to have the BEST date night ever because you worked so hard to get rid of the kids!!! And then, there you are… yawning and quite frankly sometimes without any fireworks. I get that!!! ugh. True to life and love. BUT, chances are the more you do date nights the more the gamble will be won!!
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This was last dud we had. It’s been a year and there’s lot of fireworks.
It takes a lot of work to make time for each other in the midst of kids, work, home, everything else…but we try. I don’t want the kids to grow up and leave and be stuck here wondering who the heck this old guy is living with me.
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Date nights are few and far between here. More than anything, I usually end up surprised how much fun I have. I sometimes forget how much fun my husband and I can have when it’s just the two of us. Like, “Hey! Yeah! You’re actually fun and funny. No wonder I married you!” Yeah, we need more date nights for sure!
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Those are the best moments! My favorite thing about my husband is that we laugh together. Laugh until I almost pee my pants. I can be a total dork and he thinks I’m funny. Gotta love that! We all need more date nights, girl.
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I’m totally impressed that you put in the effort – and I’m glad to hear that date nights have gotten better since you wrote this post. Go you!
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Oh girl, I’m glad too!
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Well at least hubby went when I suggest things like this my hubby will say “ok why” I tell him I think it will be nice he says “we have food here”………..the only time he is different is when there is an event like a birthday but even then he has at times said “how about you go & I stay home”……………he is so romantic…….
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Haha! Yeah, the husbands hate the birthday parties, but can we blame them?
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