Let’s talk good old-fashioned marital sex, shall we?
The SITS girls gave me a good reason to recycle this puppy. I wrote this a year ago (9/25/11, to be exact), and the majority of this post still rings true today. I can’t say that hubs and I have found a better system since then…
I love my man! I’m actually helplessly in love him, I’m attracted to him, and want to be with him, yet still can’t find the time to make this work lately.
I’m completely overwhelmed all of a sudden with the demands of homeschool, therapy appointments, outside activities, groups, field trips, etc.
Anxiety is rearing it’s ugly head big time right now, and I’m just not myself. My head’s all cloudy, and I’m off.
But, I know my husband is in fact a man. He doesn’t need his head to be clear of all the nonsense to snap to it. That’s just the way they are. SO not fair.
After nearly 14 years together he knows I’m not myself. He doesn’t even really make a move if his mama-is-a-mess radar is going off. He gives me time and space. Thats’ sweet. But, I still want to be there for him. It’s not that I’m not in the mood. I’m just not in the mood after story time! When the day has drained me from every bit of energy needed to even think about sex, much less actually initiate it. I just can’t get in the mood. I just really want to sleep! Anybody?
Even though he gives me space, I know deep down he needs me.
Hello? He is a man!
It’s important to me to make time for him.
I never say no. I just don’t. I don’t want to.
I feel like that’s one of my loving roles of being his wife, even if I’m not in the mood. Call me old school, but he sure doesn’t complain. I don’t feel like it’s a job. I want to please him. It’s an act of love. I never turn him down, but on the flip side, he never has an attitude of entitlement. Usually if I’m not in the mood he goes the extra mile. It’s a partnership.
So it’s important to me to be there for him, yet I can’t find the time or energy to put the moves on him…
Is anybody with me?
A year later, this post is still timely. Trying to balance the demands of motherhood, homeschool, and everything in between make it hard to feel sexy! Our anniversary is coming up next week. I’d love to do something out of the ordinary…