This past weekend marks the longest mommy vacation I have ever had in 14 years years.
If I have had a mommy break it must not have been all that significant, as I cannot remember it. I’m positive I have never been away from my kids this long for the sole purpose of enjoying myself. Years ago, I took a few business trips when my oldest was a baby, which I’m positive was traumatic for me, because 1. I can barely remember it and I’m pretty sure I haven’t left my kids since and 2. I was so young. That alone is traumatic!
I digress.
But, this weekend? I will always remember. In fact, I will make sure I never forget!
Both of my boys went with my in-laws for a weekend in Orlando. They left Friday around 12, and they’re still not back. It’s Monday, 8:58am.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh…
Don’t get me wrong, I miss my kids so bad I could cry right now! But, I needed this. We needed this.
“We” being my husband and I. This past month has been challenging. Not for any particular reason, but hubs and I have been bickering a lot. It seems like we’re always on opposite sides of the playing field. We’ve argued in front of the kids so many times I’ve lost count. I get frustrated because I’m sure he never understands me or my opinions or feeling, he gets aggravated with me because I think he doesn’t ever understand anything and the tornado just keeps twisting and twisting. Lately, we’ve both been exhausted.
When I knew this weekend was approaching, I began to get anxious. I was so afraid that the feelings of frustrations wouldn’t clear, and that I had finally reached the point in my marriage when I had become one of *those wives*. The wife who can’t stand her husband. We’ve always gotten along great, laugh together, cry together, he’s my best friend! It was breaking my heart that there has been so much tension here lately.
I began to panic that there was no way this weekend would be fun. Date night was going to suck and conversation would be awkward. If this happened, ya’ll? I was going to fall into a pit of deep depression. I’m just sayin’.
But, alas. The drama was all in vain. The thoughts in my head cleared and we had a fabulous weekend.
It’s confirmed. I still love my man. In fact, I may have just fallen in love with him all over again. We laughed, we connected, we ate a lot. We drank a lot. We had sex a lot. But, there was an emotional reconnection too. It’s Monday morning and I’m still in my PJs with tasseled hair. It’s like a Nicolas Sparks novel here.
It was without a doubt a weekend to remember.
Here’s a shot of one of the TWO nights we got to spend together.
Behind the camera: a bucket of beer and a deck to ourselves.
We’ve both learned a very hard lesson. It’s so important to make time for our marriage. We don’t do it enough, but we’re going to start!
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Twitter: AlisonSWLee
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You absolutely must make time for just the two of you and I’m glad you did!
(when are the kids coming back?)
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They come home today. SO excited to see them! the weekend was so nice though.
Twitter: kimahall
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Hooray for taking time with your hubbie! Great for your marriage and an extremely important lesson for the kiddos. Plus, if your kids are anything like mine, they LOVED visiting their grandparents, especially overnight.
My sister in law had children several years after us, and remarked one day she wasn’t going to be oneof THOSE moms whose kids spent any nights away from home while they were little. Years later, she admitted to me what a foolish statement that had been, and that they all benefited when the boys spent time with the grandparents.
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I am one of those moms who never leaves the kids. It’s annoying, and I need to embrace some alone time too.
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That is the MOST important lesson I have ever learned in Marriage —> Taking time for each other is important, way more important then most think.
So glad you are STILL enjoying your weekend together!
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Important lesson to learn! =)
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Oh I totally get this~ and I’m so glad the weekend was everything you needed it to be!
It’s so easy to put “us time” on the back burner~ but everyone in the family benefits when Mom & Dad are connected & on the same page!
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Oh good for you! And hubby. This is something my husband and I need to do desperately! Now to work out child care for the 3 kids.
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Yay, you! We did an overnight over the summer and it was so great. And you’re right, it’s very, very important. SO glad everything went so well. (wink, wink).
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Marriage is so much harder than I ever imagined!! It is so true, if you don’t take time to just BE together without the kids and all the drama they can add to a marriage, it is easy to lose each other… we have been struggling a bit lately too, and I know we need some good, quality together time.
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How fun! You have a weekend to remember and so do your kids — time with their grandparents is special.
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Oh yes! They have been talking non-stop about all of their adventures.
Sounds like you had a wonderful weekend! I love having time like that with my husband!
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We never do this, but I think we both realized how much we need to.