How can we tell what are necessary activities for our children and what are just fluff?
I struggle to find the balance between encouraging my boys to find a passion and nagging them to get off their lazy butts! Neither one of my boys enjoys playing sports. Which stinks, because I really think my younger child would enjoy sports, but he just likes to do whatever his much older and introverted brother likes to do, which is nothing. Sigh…
It’s fine they don’t play sports, I really don’t care that we’re not committed to be at the field at 8:00am on Saturday morning, but I would like them to find something they enjoy doing that doesn’t involve A/C and video games.
This has become a topic of dissension in our home, and I feel that it’s time for me to back off. Not because I don’t want to find something they like, but because I’m not getting anywhere by nagging them.
Maybe this is just God’s way of telling me to quit trying so hard? Is it so terrible that I have two boys that genuinely enjoy being with their family? Or having kids that enjoy simple everyday things with my husband and I? The boys are perfectly content just being at home or with family. It’s nice.
I have to ask myself, how much of my desire for them to get involved in something is for me? How much of my motivation is based on what the world tells me I should be doing with my kids, and how much of it is actually for their benefit?
“We need stop and ask ourselves the question, In ten years what will matter the most? Will it matter most that our child won yet another trophy or that we said no to one more team and instead sat down to a family dinner together? In the long run, do we want to collect trophies that will only gather dust on a closet shelf, or do we want invest in building family relationships that will last a lifetime?”~Susan Alexander Yates, And Then I Had Teenagers
Don’t get me wrong, I do think physical activity is very important! I also do not think my boys get enough of it. But, like the rest of my life, I guess I’m going to have to think outside the box when it comes to “physical activity”. Whatever happened to “playing”? When did playing outside turn into signing up for sports? Technology has stolen good old fashioned play from us, and I want it back. The idea of just going outside to play is foreign. If we had to go to practice or a game that’s a clear obligation. Somewhere we have to be. Why can’t we just play? I mean, besides the fact that nobody wants to. But, I think it’s because they don’t know how.
I’m gonna have to fix that!
Do your kids enjoy sports or do they seem to buck you on every suggestion you give?